What makes a relationship really enjoyable

Ingredients that make relationship sweet There is a popular saying that “no matter how a love relationship ends, the beginning is always very sweet.” This can also be said of a marital relationship. The beginning would have been sweet indeed. If this is true, I believe we should take a look at what makes the beginning of a love affair to be ‘sweet.’ An understanding of this will reveal what will make for the sustenance of such relationship. This is so since that beginning stands for the foundation of the marital relationship. In building technology, the foundation of a building is not normally compromised because it is crucial to the future of the structure and determines how long the building will last. Likewise, the beginning of a love relationship is equally important for the survival of that relationship. So, if it is often said that the beginning is always sweet for any love relationship, we must have a good understanding of what makes the beginning to always be sweet. The following are what I have seen as being responsible for the sweet beginning of any love relationship. That is, if it is love, these things will be present: Undivided attention Parties begin every love relationship by giving each other undivided attention. You hardly see the young man watching television or reading newspaper whenever she’s talking to him. He gives her 100 per cent attention. He is always ready to answer any question she cares to ask and listens to every and anything she is willing to say. Seeking to please each other Parties in every love relationship do all to please each other. They don’t want to hurt each other in any way whatsoever. They are always careful not to act in a hurtful way or say hurtful things to each other. They take their time before saying things and doing things, being mindful of the consequences of those things in case the partner feels hurt. They never forget to cross their ‘t’s and dot their ‘i’s in dealing with each other. Treating each other nicely In every love relationship, parties take extra care to treat each other nicely. They go out of their ways to please each other. They do things for each other whether convenient or not. He is ready to open doors of the car and house for her; she is ready to cook his favourite meal; easily submitting to his decisions, even when she does not seem to be fully persuaded; he is ready to buy gifts for her at the least request. So, the impression that he is nice and she is nice is always there in their minds and the people around them. Showering themselves with gifts At every opportunity, he buys gift to convey his love to her, and she looks forward to every special day like birthday, to present him a gift she has carefully decided on. They never forget each other’s birthday. They do all to avoid quarrel Parties do all to avoid quarrelling with each other and when they do, they don’t want it to last long. They do everything possible to end quarrels quickly. They are quick to admit fault and tender apology, involve intermediaries to mediate when necessary, send notes to say ‘I am sorry’. They are always ready to forgive and forget. Parties don’t take each other for granted At the starting point of the relationship, lovers don’t take themselves for granted. So, they don’t forget to say ‘I love you’ to each other at the slightest opportunity. They won’t forget to say happy birthday to each other. Impressing each other Parties take extra care to impress each other: dress well, look good, use perfume, buy gifts and give cards to convey how much they love each other. When a love relationship starts, the two people are always out to create a positive impression about each other. Thus, they take extra care to look good in appearance, to the best of their ability and exposure. Even those who are not given to perfect appearance still present their best at that level. I know of a person who, while wooing his wife, would always take his bath every night because the lady wanted it. She believed that after a hard day work, every person should clean up and refresh before retiring to bed, no matter how cold the weather was. Spending time together Parties spend time together as often as possible. They act like siamese twins; going out together most of the time. It’s like they are inseparable. I remember when I was courting my hubby, we were always together, in church, at functions, and we met every day, most of the time. That is the same with most lovers at the beginning of the relationship. There is always a magic wand with which lovers use to work out being together everywhere they go. All these should continue after the wedding ceremony if the marriage will work .This is because we have set a standard for each other, and woe betides the marriage if the standard is not maintained. Standard is very important in the marketing world of goods and services. People choose to buy certain goods because of the standard of the products. If the standard of the products are compromised, then patronage will definitely be jeopardised. That is why companies have standard control department. If companies do everything possible to maintain the standards of their products, in order to ensure continual patronage, then married couples have a platform to learn from, if the marriage must be sustained and enjoyed. Therefore, married couples must endeavour to keep a high standard of behaviour which they set when they started out as lovers. To lower the standard is to cut short their expectations of each other. When this happens, there will definitely be frustration, which will lead to unending quarrel and insinuations of being deceived to tie the nuptial ties.