Why you should acquire sexual skills

Sex is more than rising and digging. What gives a couple maximum pleasure or best satisfaction is more than entering and coming out of the female vagina. For a couple to enjoy maximum sexual pleasure, there is a way to go about it. This knowledge is what is lacking in many marriages, and this is causing a lot of pain, heartache and disappointment for couples. Interestingly, this is mostly the cause of infidelity among married people. Like a man responded to last week’s write-up in this column, a lot of men in the middle age bracket are fast losing their wives to other men, who have learnt and internalised the skills needed to give a woman sexual pleasure. Of course, this is also the reason why some men engage in extra-marital affairs. The reason the knowledge of sexual skill is lacking among couples is due to the fact that the skills are not inborn, but have to be acquired by individuals. It is not something that comes with individuals at birth (both male and female), but has to be acquired through the process of learning and by experience garnered by couples in the act of sexual intercourse. Of course, it is not an easy thing to acquire these skills, just like learning other trades or studying to be a graduate in any field of human endeavour is not easy. It requires commitment, patience, understanding, time, money and energy. This is why a lot of people find it difficult to acquire the skill. To a few others, it is simply unnecessary and unimaginable to start learning the skills needed for maximum sexual pleasure. Thus, they don’t even get started at all, not to talk of improving on the skill. Whatever they have been able to pick up in sexual experience or say from friends and in public gatherings, are the bedrock of their sex life. No wonder they keep wondering why there are so many problems bedeviling them as married people. Without sexual satisfaction, the marriage will suffer more from other challenges of life the couple will face. Another thing in this part of the world is that parents, religious organisations, and society at large does not have any formal method of educating young ones about the act of sex. Like it has been rightly pointed out by readers of this column and at other fora of marital interaction, no father or mother ever sat down their offspring to teach them the skills for sexual satisfaction. Rather, they expect them to learn when they get married. When some couples got married they did not know any skill at all. All that they knew was just to lie on top of each other, and then do whatever ought to be done. But, later discovered that there must be more to this thing called sex. Skills must be acquired for sexual satisfaction. Of course, children were coming through whatever they were having as sex, and the joy of having those children filled in the gap for sexual pleasure. But, it could only last for awhile, after which, we became dissatisfied. Skills for sexual pleasure or satisfaction include the following, to mention but a few. •Understanding the most important sex organs of couple. For a woman, it is the mind, while for the man it is the rod (male organ). These must be worked upon and maintained if they will produce maximum satisfaction for the couple. •Striking ways to give a woman maximum sexual pleasure. It is not just enough to rise and sink inside her; you must know the way to strike for the best effect. •Body exploration for male and female must also be learnt if the necessary satisfaction will be derived. •Different sex positions that will give sexual satisfaction to the couple. •Romantic tips for sexual pleasure.