Why Men Are Afraid to Ask You Out: 4 Things You Can Do About It

Men date out of their confidence level. What I mean is…a man who acquires knowledge in knowing what to say, what to do, how to carry himself socially, and what to do sexually with women…builds up a certain level of confidence in himself. An experienced man will exude a high degree of confidence…because he knows what to do and how to handle himself in any situation with a woman. To him, rejection isn't a deterrent. And to women, this confidence is sexy…even if he is not physically. But for the man who has limited experiences, he has a low level of confidence in how to handle himself socially and sexually with women. So he'll play-the-wall in social setting…hoping to build-up enough confidence to eventually ask a woman out. Or he'll make statements like, 'I was going to ask you out but you never gave me a chance.' Speaking of my friend…what is she suppose to do? How can she…and you…avoid being told this in the future?


1. Build Up His Confidence His confidence is the key. The only way to remove the fear is through social experiences with women. So engage him socially. You don't have to seem desperate or pressed…just friendly. The more interaction he has with you, the more confident he will be come.

2. Challenge His Manhood No man wants his manhood challenged…especially by a beautiful attractive woman. But sometimes, the right kind of challenge prompts a man into action. Now…don't go calling him out in front of a bunch of people. Rather, privately challenge whether he's scared to ask a woman out. Challenge if he even knows how to ask a woman out. Then have him role-play with you to check out his game. Tweak it to your liking…if you like. Depending on how savvy he is, he might build up enough confidence to ask you out.

3. Correct Him Privately If you see him doing or saying something that's socially awkward or a turn-off to women, pull him aside and playfully tell him how stupid that was. A great line to use is "If I was on a date with you, I would feel…" Then tell him what he should've did/said that would've been more palatable or attractive to women. He will endear himself to you and build his confidence at the same time.

4. Humor Always Helps Being humorous makes you more likable. You don't have to be a standup comedian, but play up your funny side. If you can make a man laugh, he will want to be around you more. And more exposure to you…means more confidence for him. Confidence is intangible. But its presence…or lack thereof…is very real. It shows up in the presence or absence of 'game'. Men feel it…but women experience it. And in the case of my friend, she experienced its absence because those men didn't feel it.

Source: Blackandmarriedwithkids.com