HUSBAND and WIFE: Erotic Communication in the Bedroom

HOW TO RE-AWAKEN YOUR PASSIONS IN THE BEDROOM. So much to do - so little time. And your sex life suffers. Here, from some of our top Relationship Experts, are tips on how to stir up passion TONIGHT! Make your bedroom your favorite room again! * Alison Tyler, author of the just-released Never Say Never: Tips, Tricks and Erotic Inspiration for Lovers, penned an article for Slutty Girl Problems on how to ask for a fantasy in the bedroom. Tyler points out that asking for non-romantic needs, like a cookie, is fairly easy, but when it comes to bedroom antics, it gets more complicated. After all, "women are often taught (or expected) to accept what’s offered between the sheets." Tyler offers practical advice to help women communicate their wants and needs, like having the conversation ahead of time and being very specific with desires. (1) * Mark A. Michaels and Patricia Johnson, happily married couple and co-authors of Partners in Passion, weighed in on the concept of "working" on a relationship for World Lifestyle. While it seems to be a commonly accepted notion that marriages require attention and hard work, Michaels and Johnson contend that "Sustained effort and attentiveness to your partner are important if a relationship is to thrive, but effort and work are not synonymous. Relationships are not jobs and should not be drudgery, so we encourage people to change their language." Speaking about relationships as labor "puts couples in danger of no longer viewing their marriages as interesting, lively, and fun." * Sexless MarriageProblem.com's two sex surveys caused a seismic shock among relationship experts. Together, they revealed that although 26% of married couples hadn't had sex in the previous year at all, couples started to realize the importance of such a thing as foreplay in order to improve sex life - 59.3% of couples consider a foreplay to be the most important part in sexual intercourse. Inadequate or no sex at all between married couples leads to sexless marriage. Research conducted by the US National Health and Social Life found that 2% of married defendants in divorce cases reported no sex. The research also found that most married couples have sex once a week unlike unmarried couples that have sex at least 3 times weekly. An average of twenty to twenty-five percent of men and thirty to fifty percent of women are said to lack sex drive. In relation to this, most women suffer from Hypoactive Sexual Desire (HSD), a recurring or persistent lack of sexual desire. However, there are several sexless marriage tips people can learn in order to fix a sexless marriage and reclaim lost passion and intimacy. First, lack of sex in marriage is usually a symptom not the problem. Secondly, this problem is experienced by 26% of married couples. The power of effective communication is most crucial in mending this problem. This is because, without proper info exchange between married couples, a spouse cannot tell what the partner is going through. * "The lucky couples are the ones that figure out one of the three techniques for bringing both partners to a satisfying conclusion. I'm talking about mutual satisfaction here, simultaneous orgasms. They are on the road to a fulfilling physically passionate relationship that can last into their 70's and 80's," says Kim Marshall, author of "The Great Sex Secret" during a recent interview on "Inside Romance Success". > According to a report published in the February 10, 1999 issue of the Journal of the American Medical Association, 46% of women suffer from sexual dissatisfaction compared to only 23% of men. > Studies done by Alfred Kinsey on female sexuality stated approximately 30 percent of women regularly reach climax by penile-vaginal intercourse alone. > In a survey of 100 married couples, "48% of the women reported they sometimes had trouble getting aroused, 46% reported only occasionally reaching climax, and 15% never had an orgasm" (Heiman & Lopiccolo, 1976:24).