Chances are, if you are going to date attractive women, then competition from other guys is going to become a part of your reality. It goes with the territory, kind of like celebrities and paparazzi. So, you have to accept that this is going to happen from time to time. Yes, if you enter into a club, a restaurant, a bar, with a good looking girl– other guys are going to be checking her out and some of them are even going to try and hit on her.
So, what do you do in this kind of a situation?
Well, some guys will automatically decide that they do not want to have to deal with this, and they will end up dating only regular looking girls. Of course, that is not much of a solution, is it? I mean, guess what? Even average looking girls are going to get checked out by some guys.
The first thing that you have to REALIZE is, if you are doing things right, then there really is NO competition at all!
I did not understand this when I was younger. I would date a good looking girl, and as soon as we got around some guys, I would automatically feel like they were trying to “steal” her away from me. Now, knowing these guys, they really were trying. The thing is, it would never work as long as I did not let it bother me. The minute that I did let it bother me, was the minute she would start flirting back with THEM!
So, I tried something else. I decided not to let it bother me, to kind of assume that no matter what, she still wanted me. And you know what?
It started to work!
From that point on, I never let myself worry about competition from other guys. And I have never had an experience where another guy has “taken” a woman away from me, no matter how hot she is, and no matter how hard he might try, it’s just not going to happen.
Here are my tips on how to deal with competition from other guys:
1. Don’t even think about it.
Women have some kind of jedi mastermind that lets them pick up on a guy’s insecurity right away. The minute you become insecure and feel like you might lose her to another guy, she picks up on this. She might not say anything about it, but she definitely notices. And if that insecurity keeps getting stronger, the more you will find that she DOES end up flirting with another guy.
2. Don’t get caught up in thinking that you need to put down the other guy.
Not only does this make you seem insecure, but it will also usually end up backfiring on you. Let’s say that one of your guy friends starts hitting on a girl that you are out with, and you immediately start trash talking about him to her. Well, it’s only going to reflect bad on YOU. Why? Because she will kind of evaluate what you are saying, and if she does not agree with it, you start to lose points with her. Let’s say you bring up the fact that he is a total loser. She is going to look at see things about him that don’t make him a loser. Why girls mind’s work like this, I can’t tell ya, I just know that they do.
3. Do YOUR thing right, and you don’t have to worry about it.
Unless she has some serious issues that make her bounce from guy to guy, the only chance that you really have of losing her is if you let the attraction that she feels for you start to die out. Like I said, I no longer worry about it, and it does not affect me in any way. Now, I have been out with a beautiful woman before and had guys try and flirt with her. And you want to know what they usually do? The put the guy down! They will say something like, “OMG, did you see him try to hit on me? What a jerk.” Let her come to her own conclusion, don’t try to force feed it to her.
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