I honestly can't shake the pity off my mind anytime i see how many ladies wallow in frustration simply because they are still single at very marriageable ages and this is why i decide to drop this thought provoking piece.
The major reason many ladies are still single at very ripe age is HIGH EXPECTATION and below is a simple illustration to explain my point.
As a lady please get this straight;Good potential husbands are everywhere but your spec may not be readily available.An average Nigerian lady wants a cute,rich,caring guy and no matter how hard they try to shrug this off,they keep using this as a yardstick to be with a man but unfortunately 2 out of 10 guys are the specs of 8 out of every 10 ladies so these 8 ladies clamor to be with these 2 men but unfortunately these 2 guys can't marry more than a wife each.
My advice to many ladies is to understand that it is perfectly normal to seek for a "financially ok" guy to marry but no matter how hot you may be, it is easier to get a man to marry you when he is struggling than when he is made.Comfort,wealth and good life is not usually instantaneous but progressive.
Don't be fooled,many expensive wedding ceremony you see are sponsored by the bride or groom's family.As a lady,try your best to get something doing and lets just assume you meet a guy that makes as little as 40k a month and you also make like 40k a month,please start a life together and continue to build your lives together. You can always do an elaborate intro and engagement party and proceed to the registry and when you have money you can do a very big wedding ceremony.
This thread is not for the few ladies who are fortunate to find a rich dude but for countless number of Nigerian ladies who are on the other side of the divide.
Our ladies should Stop indulging in ultimate search contest with many other ladies for a rich guy and Until our ladies learn to look in the right direction,be financially independent,lower their expectation and be ready to build a life with a man without the negative preemptive mindset of what will happen after he becomes rich,i guess there will forever be an increase in aver-aged unmarried ladies.
Just trying to make sense.
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