Conquering insomnia

Are you suffering from insomnia? Here are some suggestions to help you ease into a good night’s sleep. Top tips to fall asleep *.Don’t do heavy exercise within two hours of bed time. Light exercise is perfectly fine though. *.Don’t drink any caffeine at least a few hours before bed. Some may need to cease caffeine consumption up to 8 hours before bed. *.Take a Jacuzzi or bath before bed. Add essential oils for an extra dose of doziness. *.Stay away from any type of video screens an hour before bed. *.Read if it tends to relax your mind, which could help you drift off to sleep. *.Try either wearing socks to bed or putting a warm water bottle beneath your feet. -If following these tips to fall asleep doesn’t help, try something different. Rather than stay in bed and count sheep, get up and do something you hate to do. This is what my psychologist told me to do and it helped. I hated cleaning the cat box, so if I couldn’t get to sleep and I knew the catbox could use a cleaning, I got up and cleaned it. Afterward, I would fall asleep within thirty minutes. Chronic Insomnia If nothing seems to help and your insomnia turns into a chronic problem, there could be an underlying medical reason. I suffered from chronic insomnia for years before seeing a psychologist. It turned out my insomnia was caused by unfulfilled desires. There were things I wanted to do in life, but didn’t do them because I didn’t feel I deserved them. Once I addressed the things on my bucket list, my insomnia fizzled away. - Make a List To avoid chronic insomnia, make yourself a list of things you want to do in life and start doing them. Even addressing just one thing on your list can help you get to sleep at night. Keep making progress until you’ve crossed them all off and you may never have sleeping problems again. -Try Therapy Sometimes no matter how many self-help books you read or remedies you try, you just can’t seem to get any relief. That’s when it’s time to try therapy. You need therapy at this point because you’re not able to recognize the problem yourself. A psychologist will help get to the root of your problem. If you try a psychiatrist, you may be prescribed medication in addition to therapy. The medication may help short term, but it’s not going cure your problem, only therapy can do that. -Talk to Others Shy and passive people are often the ones who have trouble sleeping. When you talk about your problems to others it helps you see them objectively and release some of your pent-up angst. This alone can help you sleep at night.

9 ways to get over the nostalgia of lost love

Love can be excruciatingly painful when someone you love dearly is no longer in your life. Continuing to idealize and romanticize “the one” keeps you living in the past, making it extremely difficult to move forward. If you’re asking, “Why didn’t my relationship work out with him?” the simple yet hard-to-understand answer is that every person comes into your love life for a reason, a season or a lifetime. When he is no longer in your life, even if you still love him, his reason and time with you has been fulfilled. There is someone else coming into your life who is better suited for you based on where you are now, what you need to learn and how you need to grow. While this may be difficult to accept, it will make sense in hindsight. Overcome the nostalgia of lost love by focusing on yourself. Here are nine ways to focus on yourself: 1. Take time for self-reflection. Ponder what you’re doing well with in love, what you can improve upon and the notable experiences that are scripting your love story. This process brings conscious awareness of where you’ve been, where you are and where you want to go. 2. Question your negative thoughts. Negative thoughts tend to run on autopilot and, if left unquestioned, you can easily believe things that aren’t true. Question these predominant thoughts and determine positive thoughts that are as true or truer than your original thoughts. 3. Make conscious choices. When you think about him and want to contact him, make the choice to not do it. Don’t make it tempting or easy to have him in your awareness. For instance, delete his phone number, don’t text him or respond to his texts. 4. Live in the present. Spend as much time as possible in the present moment. If you find yourself thinking about him, you’re in the past. Be present because in that moment, life is good. 5. Find and live your passions. Bring more inspiration and joy into your life by doing things you love. When you’re living your passions, you are happier with your own life. 6. Soothe your soul. To connect with your being, spend time in nature, practice meditation, get a massage, enjoy some quiet time alone and do things that ease your mind. 7. Create a supportive environment. Surround yourself with family and friends who care about you and your well being. They will help you feel more at peace during difficult times. 8. Treat yourself well. You teach others how to treat you. The better you treat yourself, the better your future partner will treat you. Be kind, loving and respectful to yourself. 9. Do the inner work. Work through and resolve unhealthy relationship patterns that have shown up in all of your relationships so that when you’re ready, you can create and maintain lasting love. Taking time for yourself helps your heart heal and open up to the possibility of new love. When you’re ready and the time is right, you’ll have a deep, meaningful relationship with someone who is better suited for you. Everything is happening in your best interest. Do whatever it takes to create a clean slate for love to come your way

8 things guys secretly love but wouldn't tell you

Whether a guy is just starting to date a woman or is in a committed relationship with her, there are small things that she may do without thinking twice that guys secretly love. While there are many, here are eight to start. 1) Laying your head on his chest. When laying on the couch watching TV or laying in bed after a long day, it’s one of the best feelings when a woman lays her head down on your chest and puts her arm over you. As men, we enjoy feeling as though we are being protective, and this signifies that she feels safe in our arms. 2) When you text him first. There is a lot of pressure on guys to always initiate conversation. Sometimes he may not know if he’s being too pushy or texting too much — he might overthink it and not text you at all, which could leave you wondering. Guys like to feel affection too, and if he’s really into you, he will be thinking about you. Sending him a quick text will brighten his day and spark a good conversation. 3) When you tell him you appreciate him. Some people are more affectionate than others, and there’s nothing wrong with however you are. Just remember, if a man puts in a lot of effort into your relationship (as he should), he will never complain about hearing how much you appreciate him. While he should be able to read your feelings from your actions, some guys need a more direct approach. It will make him feel all warm and fuzzy inside. 4) Play with his hair while he’s driving. I didn’t realize how great this one was until my girlfriend randomly did it one day. If you’re riding shotgun, reach over and lightly scratch the back of his head for awhile. Guaranteed to make him smile. (Don’t distract him too much though, he’s driving!) 5) Brag about him on Facebook. Some girls go overboard with this. Way overboard. But, if your guy does something nice for you, it never hurts to talk about it or snap a photo of the impromptu dinner he had arranged when you got home from work. It will show him that you appreciate him and are willing to share your appreciation and love for him with the world. 6) Really listen. Women know better than anyone that really listening isn’t just a passive activity. It’s actually an action and it takes effort. Sometimes a guy has something important going on in his life, is working towards a goal, or is just stressed out about work. When you really sit down, keep his eye contact and become genuinely engaged in a conversation about something important to him, it will let him know you care (even if he already does). 7) Text him when you’re out with your friends. I’ve heard some really bad stories about guys who are insanely jealous or don’t “let” their girlfriend go out with friends, and especially with other guys. While I understand the apprehension, a man should be secure enough in his relationship (and trust his girlfriend enough) to not worry every second she is out without him. If you have a man who is mature enough to tell you to go have a good time, text him every now and then during the course of the night just saying hello. It will make him smile and let him know that you’re still thinking about him when you’re out. 8) Be affectionate. You don’t have to jump on him in public, but small things like taking his hand while you’re walking, hugging him in line at the grocery store, or hooking your arm into his as you walk into a party, will make him feel close to you and that you’re proud to be with him. The little things go a long way. ***** Men are relatively easy to please. When we say that, we mean it. We don’t require a lot to stay happy and we really do love doing things for our girlfriend to make her feel special. That being said, relationships are a two way street. The good news is, it doesn’t take grand romantic gestures to make a man happy, just slip a note in his pocket to find during the day, or kiss him on the cheek while you’re watching TV. These small things will make him (and you) smile.

10 signs to know an immatured guy

So many reasons have been adduced for why romantic relationships between a guy and a gal don’t end up in marriage these days. One of them is Incompatibility! For this reason, here is a list of tips on how you could get to know if a guy or that guy you are in a relationship with is immature: 1.You’re his first real relationship:He had a girlfriend or two in high school, but has not dated since. If you’re his first girlfriend in the “real world” you’re probably going to have to teach him a few basics. The only thing he has to compare this relationship to are the hormone and puberty induced ones he had when he was seventeen. In his head, when things get rough you’re going to act like his psychotic high school girlfriend, and he’s going to treat you as such. Bottom line: if you’re his first real girlfriend, you’re going to have to teach him a lot, and most of that will be the difference between girls and women. 2.He doesn’t know how to communicate:Communication is key to any relationship. There are going to be confrontations, fights, and near-breakups, but how these are handled are what determines if the couple is going to make it or not. If your boy/man-child isn’t willing to listen to you, or he readily dismisses your feelings, he’s not mature enough to be with you in the long run. 3.He loves his pride more than the relationship:There is a certain amount of give and take in relationships. If your man loves being right more than he loves you, he’s no man at all—he’s just a stubborn boy. Everyone has to swallow their pride at some point, and boys aren’t willing to do this yet. 4.He doesn’t own his flaws:This one is about placing blame, and when something happens in a relationship it’s hardly ever just one person’s fault. If you’re willing to accept what you did wrong, and he isn’t, he essentially thinks he’s always right. Not only is that immature, it’s egotistical. 5.He doesn’t want to be depended on:When poo hits the fan, he’s nowhere to be seen. You might get some sympathy from him, but he puts minimal effort into being the person you can rely on. This is because immature boys retreat when things are too difficult for them. Simply put: men are strong, boys are weak. 6.You’re his girlfriend when it’s convenient for him:You had plans for a nice weekend together? Too bad something else came up and he bailed on you. Sometimes, nothing at all comes up, but he just can’t be bothered and would rather sleep in that day. Men are committed to a relationship and put you before themselves at least some of the time. Boys do whatever they want despite you. 7.He gets lazy:He stopped putting in effort months ago. You no longer get the cute texts you use to screen-shot. You have to fish for compliments because he doesn’t offer them up anymore. And “just-because” phone calls are so few and far-between you begin to doubt their existence all together. 8.He’s a hypocrite:Remember when he got mad at you because you texted him “K” that one time? Now he does it when he’s upset just to spite you. All those things you swore never to do again, and he can’t see the irony in the doing them exactly the same way. 9.He has no ambition:He’s unhappy with his present condition but won’t make any steps to fix it. I don’t think every man needs to know what he wants to be in life, but a lack of motivation in his personal life will definitely transfer over to your relationship. 10.Instead of breaking up with you, he’ll be a jerk until you break up with him:This is something only a spineless boy does. When the relationship reaches its expiration date, instead of being honest about it with you, he’d rather hang in there until you leave him. Thus, he doesn’t have to be the bad guy, and you’re the one stuck doing his dirty work. There’s a reason girls tend to date older guys: they’re hoping to find someone who has grown out of these tendencies.

6 signs that your prince charming is a predator

So, you met a charming man, and he does everything to make you feel special. But, at the back of your mind you are facing one puzzling question- “is it too good to be true?” Do you keep wondering- “What makes him so good? Why does he keep flattering me? What’s the catch?” While it might be your own anxieties or past experiences that might be pushing you towards thinking like this, it would be a bad idea to let go of all these questions without running a careful check. You never know whether the love is authentic or just an insubstantial connection. So ladies, here are some red flags that would help you to see whether he truly loves you or just sees you as an unassuming and easy prey 1. The Dirty Talk-Meter Those naughty “somethings” whispered in your ears are fine as long as they are sweet to hear. Phrases like “You look hot!” and “You really smell nice today” can still be pulled off. But if he is getting filthy, with his remarks being laced with s*xual undertones, we suggest you a sneaky little test. Just ask him in a casual tone- “What would you like me to do to you?” Just watch the words he uses, and demands he adds. If he gets cheesy and inappropriate, a foul play is surely on. So, it is time to run away! 2. Too good with actions He truly loves you and that may have drawn out the good in him, but again you may be in for a heartbreak if he constantly behaves like a picture-perfect hero straight out of a book or a movie. It might be unreal if he is sweeping you off your feet all the time by being excessively good. Sidestep and stop falling for artistic flattery. Re-examine your relationship with him before falling in love. An honest lover may forget to wish you on your birthday, but will always be there to pick up the shattered pieces. But a cheat will earn your trust only to manipulate you. So, be aware! 3. Has a way with words Do receive the praises graciously with a smile, but be aware if they are there all the time and doled out freely. A predator would use compliments to catch an unassuming prey. He is nothing more than a needy boyfriend who will amazingly change his colours once you submit yourself to his influence. If you feel that the compliments are flowing far too freely, then there might be something shady about him. It is time to realise those fake admirations, and rubbish them. Start judging if his feelings are genuine or is he just trying to take an advantage of the situation by exciting you. 4. Unending romantic moments He is playing the game well if he is able to fascinate you with sudden romantic and heart-melting moments. Romantic intimacy in a relationship can be understood. But if he belongs to the breed of men who use intimacy to feed s*xual needs, then you might be the victim. Romance has an easily stepped-over line with many other things that might end up making you an easy prey. When he is trying to serenade you with his romantic moves, keep your eyes open to observe his body language. See how close he is trying to get to you, and if is he making you uncomfortable with his actions? 5. Little White lies Little white lies’ and ‘sweet nothings’ are okay to hear at times, but if you happen to catch many, it is surely a sign for you to be on your guard. We are not putting you on a mission, but what is the harm in interpreting his lies? There are guys who are forever on the prowl, so if you ever catch a lie, do not treat it carelessly. Step back and track him down secretly. It is just about shielding yourself to foil his (wrong) efforts at every turn. Watch out for further lies and be prepared to face such rakes. There is always a lesson to teach if you find him messing with your emotions. 6. Sacrificing factor It might appear romantic, but it is not usual if he is always on a self-sacrificing spree. The statement may seem unfair, but there is no harm in being cautious. Real love is open, candid and from the heart. So in a healthy relationship, it is unreal to compromise all the time. You are courting danger if he is always foregoing and forgiving. All he might want to do is gain an upper hand. If it is true love, you should know for what reasons he is being cooperative all the time. So ladies, keep your mind open even when you feel your heart taking over your senses. Just watch out for these signs to find your true prince charming and get rid of the fake ones!

7 signs that he loves you

It can be hard to know if the guy you’re with loves you or loves you not. From my own experience and the women I coach, a few things makes it difficult to know if he loves you: *.Your definition and experience of love is different from his *.Your expectations that love has to be a certain way *.Your insecurities get in the way of seeing things clearly *.and his words, behaviors and actions are contradicting, causing you to doubt his feelings for you. *.He Loves Me, Loves Me Not Situations Like most women, you will meet, date and be in relationships with different types of men. And during the course of your love life, you’ll experience one or all of these situations. Guys you’ve known for a short time will tell you they love you without really knowing who you are. If this happens, don’t believe them. They most likely have an ulterior motive, like trying to have s*x with you, and are using those three big words to sway you into bed. Guys say they love you but don’t treat you as if they do because they don’t know how to love. They love themselves more than they love you or aren’t capable of love. You will know you’re with this kind of guy because you will doubt and question his love for you. Guys who don’t say those three words and don’t treat you well. These guys don’t love you. You should leave this kind of person to be available for a someone who will treat you well. Guys who don’t say those three words, yet treat you with love. These guys may actually love you. They may not wear their heart on their sleeves and are more comfortable expressing their love through actions instead of words. Guys who say they love you and treat you with love. There is no doubt that they love you. If you date or are in a relationship with this guy, he is a keeper. So, how can you know if the guy you’re with truly loves you or loves you not? If your guy exhibits these 7 signs, he most likely loves you. 1. He Treats You Well A guy who loves you is considerate of your feelings, needs and desires. He makes them as important as his desires and needs. He is concerned with your well-being and will do things to make your life better, sometimes going out of his way to do so. Not only does he treat you well, he is also good to your family and friends. 2. He Is Generous With His Time He doesn’t let too much time go by without seeing you. When he is available, he wants to be with you and chooses to spend his time with you. If you’re in a long distance relationship, he is spending time with you whenever your schedules allow. And you are together during major holidays such as Valentine’s Day, Thanksgiving, Christmas and New Year’s Eve. 3. He Makes You A Priority You are at the forefront of his mind and he maintains contact in between the times you see each other. He considers you when making decisions and is considerate about doing things you want to do. When speaking, he uses “we” instead of “I”, and includes you in his future plans. 4. He Cares For You A guy who loves you is genuinely happy for you when good things happen to you. He is compassionate when you’re going through challenges. This guy is there for you in the good and not so good times. He thinks about you and surprises you with tokens of affection outside of your birthday, Christmas and Valentine’s Day. He will also challenge you by calling you out on stuff to help you become a better person. 5. He Wants People To Know About You He is affectionate with you in public by holding your hand, putting his arm around you and/or hugging you. He is proud to be with you and has introduced you to his family and friends. He brings you to family functions and get-togethers with friends, and takes you to company events. 6. He Treats Your Relationship With Integrity He is trustworthy and loyal to you and your relationship. He is upfront with you about his past girlfriends and skeletons in his closet. He does what he says and will let you know if he’s not able to. When issues come up, he is willing to work through them. Although he isn’t perfect, he tries to be a better man. 7. He Wants The Best For You A guy who loves you encourages you to do things you love, even if it means doing these things without him. He wants you to spend time with family and friends. He encourages you to find and live your passions, knowing that if you are happy and engaged with life, you’ll be happy and engaged in your relationship with him. Behaviors and Actions Mean More than Words Don’t believe a man’s “I love you” if his behaviors and actions aren’t backing up his words. You’ll know if you’re in this situation because you will feel uncertain and question his love for you. Pay attention to this feeling because your intuition is telling you something isn’t right. Place less weight on his words and more weight on his behaviors and actions. From my experience, a man’s behaviors and actions are more revealing and show if he loves you or not. It’s easier for a man to say, “I love you” because that’s what you want to hear. The true test of whether he loves you is if he exhibits the signs described earlier. When a man loves you, you won’t need to hear the words because you will just know

9 shocking things men find attractive in a lady

It is true that men fantasise about dating women with a curvaceous figure and an alluring personality. But girls, it is something more that you do, including your silly habits, which end up making you his sweetheart and not just a fantasy. When we tell you what these things are, you will certainly be surprised. Yes, there are many things that you might be doing so casually as to notice it yourself, but when a man sees you doing so he can’t help but instantly fall for you. Here are 10 such surprising things that draw him closer to you. 1. Women who play counter strike Oh! Yes, this is something he truly digs, especially when you are playing with him. It is like “Love at first shot!” for him. So, if you are not into gaming already, then time to pick that gun we say, to get his attention. 2. Streaming guitar Serenading while strumming a guitar falls into the man’s domain, but ladies, your man will also love it you who is holding the guitar. He would simply love it if you croon and strum a few notes to impress him.. 3. When you make the first move Be it approaching him, or complementing him, making a flirty remark or simply just wishing him, he loves it when it is you who is making the first move. It makes him feel wanted and special just like a girl feels when she is asked out. 4. Drinking pints Yes ladies, you might be avoiding being the ‘pint-guzzling’ sorts when around him, but little do you realise he finds it attractive. He loves it when you are yourself around him, just as you are with your friends. This helps him to relate with you better. A bond is formed on a deeper level surpassing the visual and the superficial boundaries. 5. A few foul words A few ‘f’ bombs and you will have his attention. Unlike women who hate filthy mouth men, men love it in their girls. He thinks of you as his friend and feels comfortable around you. But we just mean a few ‘f’ words, so don’t go overboard between being casual to just plain filthy. 6. Not being hooked to social media Now, here is a catch! We know you can’t imagine not being connected to the social media at all, and well what’s the harm, anyways? But again, a man prefers face to face attraction, free from social media distraction and gossips when he is with you. Men love it when their women pay attention to them, rather than updating, checking in or chatting on Facebook and WhatsApp. 7. Attractive teeth girl’s smile can win a million hearts. And, when you smile, the first feature of yours that is noticed is your teeth. It is a priceless accessory and something that captures his attention. So, go for the occasional bleaching, brush twice a day and floss every alternate days to keep your teeth sparkling white and healthy. 8. Smudged make up Are you worried you will be labelled careless and casual because of your makeup mistake? Well, the impression might just be the opposite when your special one sees you. Yes, men prefer to see you as your natural self, with no makeup. But, occasionally it is the smudged makeup look that would get his heart racing in your direction. It makes you more of a simple girl than a supermodel and, much to your surprise men appreciate it. 9. Not trying to be sexy Looking sexy and seductive is fine for some special occasions and moments, but not always. It might just seem to him as being ‘fake’. At times when you are just roaming around barefoot in a baggy tee or a sweatshirt can be the one which can make him fall in love with you…head over heels! So, ditch those heels, that little red dress (or black), and that makeup kit once in a while and just be your casual self when he is around. This is enough to get his undivided love and attention.

7 ways to manage jealousy

Managing jealousy in a relationship was something I used to have to do a lot. I used to be an incredibly jealous person, and I think that is something that has simply disappeared with age! Managing jealousy in a relationship is something we are all going to have to do at some point or another. You may find yourself managing your own feelings, or handling the emotions of someone else. 1. Are You Being Reasonable? One of the easiest ways of managing jealousy in a relationship is to stop and check if you are being reasonable. Think about what it is that is sparking your jealousy. Is it really worth being annoyed about? Try to do this alone while reflecting on the problem for a few hours. Once you have identified why you are not being reasonable (if that is the case), write it down and reflect on it when jealousy rears its gruesome head. 2. Check for Insecurities It is often the case that jealousy stems from insecurities. I remember feeling jealous of a female friend of an ex. The main reason was that she was skinnier than me. Fortunately those woes rarely plague me now, but at the time they felt very real. If you can identify an insecurity, try to embrace yourself and reflect on your strong points. Don’t let feeling insecure drive your jealousy. 3. Let Go of The past The past can seriously kill a relationship. I have been cheated on, so I understand the paranoia those experiences can bring! Many of us will find ourselves with a partner who has also been cheated on. When this happens, try to let go of the past together. Some people cheat, but another person’s bad behavior shouldn’t taint the experience you have right now. 4. Getting Or Giving Clarification Sometimes a person’s behavior can seem odd, but that doesn’t mean they are cheating. If you are worried about the way your partner is behaving, talk to them about it. Similarly, if your partner is displaying signs of jealousy, ask them what has sparked the problem. Getting and giving clarification over a situation that is troubling you can prevent jealousy. In many cases, you guys can sit down and realize you were just being silly. 5. Trusting Sometimes you may come across a situation where someone is clearly flirting with the person you love. Even worse, they may be actively hunting them down. First, recognize that you have someone awesome–someone else pursuing them is a compliment really! Next, realize that you only have to trust them. You can’t control the way other people act, so let go. 6. Spend Time Reconnecting Sometimes jealousy begins when you have spent too much time apart. Working away, having to dedicate more time to studying, and starting a job that is demanding can cause jealousy. The person you love isn’t jealous of you, they’re jealous of the person who gets to spend time with you! If this is the problem, take some time to reconnect with the one you love. It can work wonders for your relationship, as it delivers instant reassurance. 7. Ditch Social Media I have lost count of the number of times my friends have worried about jealousy stemming from social media. Guess what, you can live without it! If you both ditch social media, you are removing a major player in the causes of jealousy. Usually, Facebook is the root of these problems. There are simpler ways for you to stay in touch with others, and they won’t cause jealousy. Jealousy is a real killjoy in relationships. It feels bad to experience it, and it often feels even worse to be on the receiving end of it. Fortunately, most of us can manage these problems. If you can’t, you may need to re-evaluate the relationship. If you have successfully managed jealousy in the past, how did it work for you?

10 ways to make your butt bigger

All women have different body types and shapes. Some are triangle, inverted triangle, round, rectangle or diamond in shape while others have a perfect hourglass figure. However, no matter how they look, the one thing that all women would like to have are bigger and rounded bums. Some women don’t have to do much other than just maintaining their asset, but, there are flat-bottomed women who would do anything to get a nice and curvier shaped bum. Fortunately for them, there are a lot of things that can be done to get bigger bums. From wearing the right clothes, eating healthy, exercising, taking a few supplements to getting bum implants, the choice is entirely theirs. Let’s take a look at some of the straightforward ways to make your bum bigger. #1-Wear High Heels Heels help in changing the natural curve in your spine. This will not only make your bum look bigger, but it will also make your b**bs protrude. If you wish to make your bum look a little more lifted and curvier, try wearing stilettos. The heels enhance the overall appearance of your bottom-half by making your legs look toned and your bum appearing higher by an inch or two. However, you need to remember that wearing high heels all the time can damage your knees and feet permanently. So, wear high heels only for some special occasions to get the best of both worlds. #2-Change Your Walk and Your Posture If you don’t want to risk wearing high heels all the time, then another neat trick is to change your posture and the way you walk. By throwing your shoulders back and arching your lower back, your torso will look slimmer and your chest bigger. Have you ever noticed how models walk on the runway? Try and imitate the way they walk. As you walk, imagine that you’re walking on a tightrope, hence, your feet need to follow each other. Practice walking like that for a few days, and you’ll notice the difference in your bum instantly. #3-b*tt Enhancing Pills No doubt, there is a lot of controversy surrounding these b*tt enhancing pills and whether they really work or not. But, you need to get your hands on some trusted ones, and not on any unheard brand. If you get some good ones, then you’re safe. If you’re not sure of the dosage, don’t hesitate to speak to a physician. #4-b*tt Enhancement Creams The best part about these creams is that you can use them along with consuming b*tt enhancing pills. All you need to do is take a little bit of cream and apply it on your b*tt cheeks. You should start seeing results within a few weeks to months depending on which cream you’re applying. Although not a cream per se, fish oil is something that you can try applying. If you’re not happy with the smell, then look for fish oil pills that are unscented #5-Get a Sporty Hobby Cycling, running, swimming, gymnastics, skiing, roller skating, playing volleyball or field hockey-choose a sport that builds your leg and bum muscles. By taking some time out from your daily schedule to spend some quality time with your hobby will ensure you acquire a nice shapely rear. If you’re not motivated enough and need some encouragement, partner with your friend who has an envious booty and go together. You’ll notice how often you want to go and indulge in a sporty activity, just to get a better booty than your friend. #6-Get Groovy on the Dance Floor Dancing strengthens your muscles and bones, improves your balance and posture, plus enhances your flexibility and stamina. Try belly dancing, pole dancing or any other form of dancing that requires you to use lower part of your body to steady yourself. These dances will nicely exercise your hips, bums, quadriceps and hamstrings. If you’re at a party, try freestyle dancing, if nothing else, it’ll at least help you burn a few calories. #7-Change to a Healthier Diet Eating right and healthy always helps. Consult your nutritionist and find out what foods are right for you based on your schedule and daily activities. If you have a desk job and don’t move about much throughout the day, your diet will entirely differ from someone who’s on her toes all day long. Essentially, a protein-rich diet should help. #8-Try and Put on Some Healthy Weight If you’re on a thinner side, then that could be one of the main reasons why your b*tt is flat. Eat more, but eat healthy. Eat a lot of fresh fruits and vegetables, in addition to chicken, cottage cheese, fish, and egg-whites. #9-Bum Implants If you’re looking for instant results, then you should probably be considering getting bum implants. However, it’s advisable to go to a well-known surgeon who knows what she/he is doing. If not done right, this surgery can prove to be quite harmful. So ask around, consult your family or friends who’ve had promising results, and only then make an appointment to get your bum bigger. Tread very carefully when it comes to any kind of surgery. #10-Make Peace with Yoga Not only is yoga great in helping your mind relax, it’s also an efficient way to tone your bum. Yoga involves resistance training and fat burning exercises. Yoga has certain poses that can strengthen your legs and give you a shapely bum. While some of these ways have known to help some women, not everyone has benefited. So, you need to figure out for yourself what works for you, and then go all out to achieve a bigger bum.

10 ways to nake your butt bigger

All women have different body types and shapes. Some are triangle, inverted triangle, round, rectangle or diamond in shape while others have a perfect hourglass figure. However, no matter how they look, the one thing that all women would like to have are bigger and rounded bums. Some women don’t have to do much other than just maintaining their asset, but, there are flat-bottomed women who would do anything to get a nice and curvier shaped bum. Fortunately for them, there are a lot of things that can be done to get bigger bums. From wearing the right clothes, eating healthy, exercising, taking a few supplements to getting bum implants, the choice is entirely theirs. Let’s take a look at some of the straightforward ways to make your bum bigger. #1-Wear High Heels Heels help in changing the natural curve in your spine. This will not only make your bum look bigger, but it will also make your b**bs protrude. If you wish to make your bum look a little more lifted and curvier, try wearing stilettos. The heels enhance the overall appearance of your bottom-half by making your legs look toned and your bum appearing higher by an inch or two. However, you need to remember that wearing high heels all the time can damage your knees and feet permanently. So, wear high heels only for some special occasions to get the best of both worlds. #2-Change Your Walk and Your Posture If you don’t want to risk wearing high heels all the time, then another neat trick is to change your posture and the way you walk. By throwing your shoulders back and arching your lower back, your torso will look slimmer and your chest bigger. Have you ever noticed how models walk on the runway? Try and imitate the way they walk. As you walk, imagine that you’re walking on a tightrope, hence, your feet need to follow each other. Practice walking like that for a few days, and you’ll notice the difference in your bum instantly. #3-b*tt Enhancing Pills No doubt, there is a lot of controversy surrounding these b*tt enhancing pills and whether they really work or not. But, you need to get your hands on some trusted ones, and not on any unheard brand. If you get some good ones, then you’re safe. If you’re not sure of the dosage, don’t hesitate to speak to a physician. #4-b*tt Enhancement Creams The best part about these creams is that you can use them along with consuming b*tt enhancing pills. All you need to do is take a little bit of cream and apply it on your b*tt cheeks. You should start seeing results within a few weeks to months depending on which cream you’re applying. Although not a cream per se, fish oil is something that you can try applying. If you’re not happy with the smell, then look for fish oil pills that are unscented #5-Get a Sporty Hobby Cycling, running, swimming, gymnastics, skiing, roller skating, playing volleyball or field hockey-choose a sport that builds your leg and bum muscles. By taking some time out from your daily schedule to spend some quality time with your hobby will ensure you acquire a nice shapely rear. If you’re not motivated enough and need some encouragement, partner with your friend who has an envious booty and go together. You’ll notice how often you want to go and indulge in a sporty activity, just to get a better booty than your friend. #6-Get Groovy on the Dance Floor Dancing strengthens your muscles and bones, improves your balance and posture, plus enhances your flexibility and stamina. Try belly dancing, pole dancing or any other form of dancing that requires you to use lower part of your body to steady yourself. These dances will nicely exercise your hips, bums, quadriceps and hamstrings. If you’re at a party, try freestyle dancing, if nothing else, it’ll at least help you burn a few calories. #7-Change to a Healthier Diet Eating right and healthy always helps. Consult your nutritionist and find out what foods are right for you based on your schedule and daily activities. If you have a desk job and don’t move about much throughout the day, your diet will entirely differ from someone who’s on her toes all day long. Essentially, a protein-rich diet should help. #8-Try and Put on Some Healthy Weight If you’re on a thinner side, then that could be one of the main reasons why your b*tt is flat. Eat more, but eat healthy. Eat a lot of fresh fruits and vegetables, in addition to chicken, cottage cheese, fish, and egg-whites. #9-Bum Implants If you’re looking for instant results, then you should probably be considering getting bum implants. However, it’s advisable to go to a well-known surgeon who knows what she/he is doing. If not done right, this surgery can prove to be quite harmful. So ask around, consult your family or friends who’ve had promising results, and only then make an appointment to get your bum bigger. Tread very carefully when it comes to any kind of surgery. #10-Make Peace with Yoga Not only is yoga great in helping your mind relax, it’s also an efficient way to tone your bum. Yoga involves resistance training and fat burning exercises. Yoga has certain poses that can strengthen your legs and give you a shapely bum. While some of these ways have known to help some women, not everyone has benefited. So, you need to figure out for yourself what works for you, and then go all out to achieve a bigger bum.

10 ways to keep your marriage off the divorce list

While there is no way to foolproof a marriage, there are a few things that can make it (and your other relationships) stronger and healthier. Some of these work even when the marriage does not. Your children will thank you for a better foundation for their own relationships down the road. 1. Ask for what you need. This is first on the list for a reason. People do not read minds and this is not news. Imagine walking into Starbucks in a different city standing at the counter and not saying a word. Ridiculous right? No latte. Women in particular, seem to believe that if someone “really loves” them they are magically imparted with the ability to read minds. He should know what she needs/wants. People believe if you have to ask for flowers, the flowers become meaningless. Well, if you don’t ask for what you want, you won’t get what you need, as unromantic as that may sound. Resentment then builds unnecessarily. People are a product of their own individual upbringing. Just because your father brought your mother flowers each Friday, you may believe that is the only acceptable expression of love. You may give no value to the fact that your spouse fills up the gas tank so you never have to. If it’s the case that only flowers will do, ASK for them. Give a road map, not just “I like flowers,” but also for what occasions and what kind you love. Think about it this way: We tell our employees, our children and our friends what we expect from them… why is our spouse any different? After my C-section with my daughter, my husband was not exactly enthusiastic about getting me a glass of water after his head had just hit the pillow. Really? I just gave birth you selfish #$%^. After years of commentary under my breath (which he really loved) regarding this one particularly jerky incident, I finally realized that this was not totally his fault. It was my fault too, for not telling him ahead of time what I needed and just expecting he would know. Flash forward to another baby (this time a sick one) and a knee surgery with an attentive husband by my side. If he hadn’t been, it may have been the end for us, but I did not struggle alone this time. The difference was, I asked for what I needed, in detail, and he gave it to me. People generally want to make each other happy, but sometimes just don’t know how. 2. Forget perfect. Marry someone whose crap you can live with, really live with, without expecting someone will change (they won’t) or getting “brownie points” for putting up with it or throwing it in their face. If it annoys you now, it will annoy you later, only more so. He’s a slob, or she can’t cook, are fine if you can handle it. Everybody’s list is different. The non-negotiable issues are different for every person, but don’t kid yourself into believing you can live with something that you can’t. If he’s a spender and you’re a saver, beware. Different views on finances or fundamental differences in morals or values are tough to overcome. For the record, it should go without saying, abuse, physical, or emotional, is non-negotiable and if it is not, seek a good therapist. 3. Realize fairy tales are for children. When I hear anyone over the age of 10 speak about their fairy tale romance or wedding, I cringe and then hand them a business card. Marriage is many things, but it is no fairy tale, I assure you. Let’s see how wonderful this sounds: Once upon a time, there were two people who decided to live together forever. All they could afford after the $100,000 wedding was a tiny condo. They both worked hard, and then had two children. Then came the sweatpants, the homework, the laundry, and the in-laws. They hit the lottery, moved to a bigger castle and bought a few new cars. Even though they now had all the money in the kingdom, there was still laundry, homework and in-laws. So, the princess left the prince because she was sick of the prince leaving his stuff all over the place, and he was glad because she never wore anything but sweatpants, her parents were a pain in the a*s, and the laundry was piling up. No one would do it, of course, because in the fairy tale world, no one does laundry. Have realistic expectations. Not every day is going to be great, but some will take your breath away from the overwhelming love you feel. Regardless of your economic status, there will be sickness and health, money issues, work troubles, and screaming kids. There will also be immeasurable joy. Expect both the good and the bad and hold on tight through the tough times by remembering the good ones. 4. Lower your expectations. People are human. They forget the milk, they have bad days, and they say things they should not say — annoying and stupid things. We let it go, because that’s life, unless we’re in a relationship with someone. When we’re married, we beat it to death as if it is somehow a personal affront, an indication that someone does not love us enough. Our expectations are higher of our significant other than anyone else. Most times unreasonably so. This leads to disappointment and resentment. Lower the expectations and be pleasantly surprised when someone does something great without it being expected. 5. Say thank you. Why is it that people often forget to say the kind things to the ones they love? We wouldn’t dream of allowing a stranger to go without thanks for a kind word or deed. It is automatic, a part of civilized society. However, the one who cleans up the kitchen, makes the dinner, pays the bills, or takes the kids in the morning so their partner can sleep does not get a thank you? Really? Cherish your spouse or partner and let them know they are appreciated, valued, or someone else may. 6. See the glass half full. Perception is reality. Life is hard or it is amazing, depending on the day. The same goes for our relationships. If you wake up wanting to be angry at your partner (or friend or sister), it would be easy. Focus on the stuff someone did wrong and everything they do will be wrong, not good enough, or done with the specific intent to drive you crazy. In reality, that is rarely the case. When you decide to focus on the good, it’s amazing how the day goes much smoother. The dinner is cooked and the laundry is folded, even if it’s not how you would’ve done it. When the day is really crappy, try to appreciate that it is all relative. Despite our difficulties, we are more blessed than many. Just turn on the news to see how truly difficult the world is for some, and the day seems a whole lot better. 7. Choose happiness. Most of the time happiness is a choice. When we’re first in love, everyone is happy and life is fun. Choose to be happy. Be kind and make your partner happy. Do the special things to make someone else happy that you once did. Make an effort to laugh with each other, celebrate and enjoy. It will carry you through a lot of the bad shit. 8. Say I am sorry. This does not mean you are WRONG, people, it just means you’re sorry. Sorry I made you feel sad. Sorry you are hurting. Show compassion to your partner’s pain, even if you don’t understand it. Do not explain why someone should not feel the way they do, just say sorry. 9. Realize not everything means something. Over breakfast, a man notices his wife having a piece of toast for breakfast when she usually has cereal. On the way home from work he stops to get her some cereal and brings it home to her. She immediately starts to yell at him, “You’re such a selfish person. I had Cheerios every morning for the last ten years, and you brought me Raisin Bran. If you loved me, you would notice what kind of cereal I eat. You don’t care if I am happy or what I need in life.” Husband has no idea what just happened. Sometimes a box of cereal is just a box of cereal. No hidden message, no hidden meaning. Don’t always think your partner thought something through and intentionally tried to hurt you. Look for the good, appreciate the effort. 10. Ego — put your partners first. Be a couple who supports each other in private and in public. Don’t talk trash about your spouse or let others. Say kind things to them and about them. Build each other up and find other couples who do the same. Be loyal. Make them feel important and needed. Put down your phone, stop texting and surfing, and pay attention! Be present. Marriages are like anything we cherish and want to keep. We must first recognize the value of it, prioritize it and make efforts to care for it if we want to keep it. If we value our marriage, we are less likely to risk it

Phrases men love to hear

We’ve talked about the things women love and hate to hear from their guys, but what about phrases women say that men love to hear? Men think we’re complicated, but they can be just as so. What do they want, what do they like? For many of our men it’s not all about sports and beer, and that’s why I’m here to help with these phrases women say that men love, so the next time you are trying to cheer up your guy you’ll know just what he’ll want to hear! 1. Compliment His Looks One of the best phrases women say that men love to hear is, “You look good,” or something along those lines that compliments his looks. Whether you tell him his hair looks good, his arms look buff, or that his looks overall are great, he will just eat those words right up and melt like butter! Every time you think about asking him how you look when you’re going out, remember to compliment him on his looks as well. 2. How Strong And Masculine He Is Since we’re already telling him how buff he looks, go a little further and say how strong he is as well. All guys, built or not, like to hear that they’re strong and can do something for their partner because they are stronger. Boost your guy’s confidence by asking him to open something for you or carry a heavy box to show him that you can’t do it because you’re just not as strong as he is. 3. You Need Him Men are no different than us, they like to feel wanted and needed too. When the setting is just right and you two are having a romantic evening together, tell your guy how much you need him and can’t live without him. It’s all about timing, ladies. You don’t want to tell him this if you haven’t reached that connection yet, and you certainly don’t want to say this if you are having a fight and might go your separate ways. 4. Turn Him on Don’t put him in the position of being the one who always tries to get things hot between the two of you. Make the first move tonight and say things that move the conversation into the bedroom. Tell him that it’s his night to be taken care of and start off with a nice back massage to get things started. 5. He Makes You Proud Whether he is an amazing dad, works hard at his job, or he’s just an all around amazing guy, tell him how proud he makes you. Guys don’t always get the credit they deserve; everyone always makes a big deal about working moms, but what about working dads? Make this weekend all about him and show him what a great job he is doing with cards from the kids or a surprise favorite meal and dessert! 6. Give Him The Night off We’re always making plans to do things; someone is having a birthday, it’s time for yet another holiday get together, or you need to go shopping for so and so. Well, tonight give your guy the night off, heck give him the weekend off! He works all week and doesn’t ever get to just stay home on the weekend because there is always something that needs to be done. Telling your guy, “Honey, let’s stay in this weekend,” will probably be one of the best phrases he has heard in a long time! 7. I Love You Sometimes when we’re so comfortable in our relationships we don’t say “I love you”, as much as we should. These three words have so much meaning behind them, but we tend to just go about our day without saying them. So the next time you’re at work thinking of your guy, just send him a little text to show him how much you love him. What do you think of my list of phrases women say that men love to hear? Are there any phrases you think are missing? What does your guy love to hear you say.

7 thinhs happy people never do

Happiness is something you can get in spite of the circumstances. They say you don’t need to do anything to be happy, just be it. However, some people just need to learn how to be happy. And it is up to you what you need to for it, for someone it is a family that makes them happy, while for others a good book and a cup of chocolate are happy things. Here are a few things that happy people never do. Maybe you will become a happier person if you avoid doing these things too. 1. They never avoid problems Avoiding problems has never helped to solve them. It may be very difficult sometimes to stand tall and face your problems. But if you get yourself together and try to look for a solution, you might just find that solving a problem is way much easier than be haunted by it all the time. Try to find an effective solution to you problem and you will see it vanish in thin air. 2. They’re never concerned about other people’s business When you do things you like without looking at others you feel free and contented. But try to compare yourself with others and you will see black spots on your happiness. So it is way easier to mind your own business and do the things that make you happy. The negative way of thinking has never helped anyone to keep peace of mind. You need to listen to yourself and be what you want to be, and you will feel happier, I promise. 3. They don’t let others be the center of their happiness Have you ever noticed that you don’t need others’ permission to be happy? Your happiness is only yours and you can be happy if you choose to in spite of opinion of others. If you are responsible for what you feel no one can affect your happiness. Even if some things are going not that perfect as you want them to, you can always find something good in life. 4. They never stay with negative people It is very important not to stay in negative environment, but sometimes you just can’t help it. Perhaps you have such an environment at work and you don’t have the opportunity to quit since you need money. But there are things that you can change. If you don’t want negative environment to affect you, affect it yourself! I’m sure you can think of some little things that can help you not to lose your positive attitude. You can bring some trifles that can make you feel better to your working place, or a photo of someone you love. And do smile! One tiny smile from you can change everything, and one day, perhaps, you will see negative environment turning into a positive. 5. They forgive and forget Stop carrying resentment around. Any of us can get hurt from time to time, but if you find it difficult to forgive and forget, the burden of dudgeon can break your back one day. You should not let you past affect you. You’ll see how free you will feel when you learn to forgive. Let go of the past, look into your future with hope and it will make it brighter. 6. They don’t take things personally Some people just can’t stand being criticized, they take it too personally. It doesn’t matter if you are praised or criticized, you can make use of any information. Listen to what people tell you, don’t take it personally, and you will be able to turn this information to your own good. Use it as a feedback! 7. They never avenge Happy people never try to avenge, they know that it will not bring them happiness. You may be deeply hurt, but don’t let yourself spoil your future with guilt by taking revenge. You may feel satisfaction, but just for a moment; memory of your revenge and understanding that you are the same as the one who hurt you can affect your life for long. Try to forgive and move forward. In order to be happy we need to focus only on positive things and ignore all the negative ones. This is the only way to be happy, as far as I know. You can create your happiness yourself, and as Jim Rohn once said “Happiness is not something you postpone for the future; it is something you design into the present.

8 foods to eat everyday for a perfect skin

Are you tired of using different expensive and ineffective beauty products? It’s time to throw away all those ineffective products and start eating foods for perfect skin. I went from terrible acne five months ago to not having acne now. It was hard, but it was possible, and less expensive than turning to pricey products. While some foods can aggravate your skin, others can enhance it. Check out a list of 10 foods to eat every day for perfect skin. 1. Red bell peppers Red bell peppers are a tasty vegetable that can be enjoyed either cooked or raw. One red bell pepper contains more than 100% of your daily vitamin C needs. It also contains significant amounts of dietary fiber and vitamin B6. Moreover, it is rich in carotenoids that can help prevent wrinkles and increase blood circulation to your skin, helping it look more youthful. Due to their carotenoids, red bell peppers are also great to fight acne. A red bell pepper is a perfect, low calorie snack that contains about 30 calories and has a really satisfying crunchy bite. Keep slices of red bell peppers in the fridge, so you will always have something healthy and tasty to reach for when you are having a snack attack. The fiber that a bell pepper contains will help you to feel full longer with very little calories. Plus, you will have a flawless skin! 2. Coconut oil Coconut oil is one of the richest sources of saturated fat with about 90 percent of calories as saturated fat. It contains lauric acid, a powerful antibacterial and antiviral agent that keeps away viruses, infections, inflammation and acne. Coconut oil is also rich in essential fatty acids and Vitamin E, which are perfect for keeping your skin moist, soft, and wrinkle-free. 3. Salmon Salmon is an excellent food to fight stress, anxiety, and depression. Salmon also provides most of your daily vitamin D needs. And as you may already know, Vitamin D is responsible for keeping your heart, bones, colon and brain healthy. It also helps prevent colon cancer, anxiety, depression, heart disease and bone disease. Salmon is also rich in omega-3 fatty acids that are excellent for fighting inflammation, wrinkles and acne. Its high omega-3 content also helps hydrate your skin from the inside out. Moreover, eating salmon keeps your scalp hydrated and promotes strong, healthy hair. I use coconut oil as a body cream and consume 1 tbsp. of raw coconut oil every day. Coconut oil is especially good for your thyroid. Plus, there’s considerable evidence that this oil can help lose weight. So many health benefits, don’t you think? 4. Dark Chocolate This is one of my favorite foods to eat every day for perfect skin! Dark chocolate is rich in antioxidants, fatty acids and flavanols that promote glowing skin. The antioxidants in dark chocolate will help reduce roughness in your skin and protect it against sun damage. Moreover, cocoa relaxes arteries, increasing blood circulation that leads to healthier skin. I usually buy cocoa powder or raw cacao for less fat. And if you like dark chocolate, eat your ounce of dark chocolate every day and make sure you choose at least 80% cacao content in order to avoid milk and added sugars found in a traditional chocolate bar. 5. Green Tea Well, so I know green tea is actually a beverage, but tea leaves come from a plant! Even though I love black tea, I drink green tea every day because I know that it is a great source of antioxidants and a unique amino acid, L-theanine that helps relax your body and lower stress. When the tea is hot, the bionic brew releases catechins, a kind of antioxidant with proven anti-cancer and anti-inflammatory properties. Green tea may also reduce your risk of developing high blood pressure. Drink 3 or more cups of tea every day for better results. 6. Spinach Spinach is a healthy and nutrient-rich food you should certainly include in your everyday diet. You may hate spinach, but it is a wonderful source of iron, folate, chlorophyll, Vitamin E, magnesium, Vitamin A, fiber, plant protein, and Vitamin C. Due to their antioxidant abilities, Vitamins C, E, and A are especially great for your skin. Spinach contains antioxidants that fight against all types of skin problems. Add it to your everyday diet and see what happens. By eating spinach, you’re just cleaning your skin from the inside out! 7. Papaya Papaya is a wonderful fruit which has a rich history and numerous nutritional benefits. It is very low in calories (only 39 calories per 100 g!) and also contains no cholesterol. So if you are trying to lose weight, consider eating papaya every day to maximize its health benefits. A great beauty food, papaya is low in fructose and is excellent for digestion! The antioxidant nutrients found in it, including Vitamins C and E and beta-carotene, are great at reducing inflammation and acne. Moreover, Vitamin C may also protect your skin against sun damage. 8. Carrots Carrots are good not only for your eyes, but also for your skin. They are especially good for clearing up breakouts. Carrots are rich in vitamin A and they help prevent the overproduction of cells in the outer layer of the skin. That’s where excess sebum combines with dead cells and clogs pores. Another great reason to snack on some carrots is because Vitamin A reduces the development of skin-cancer cells. So make sure you nibble on a half-cup of baby carrots every day for perfect skin. I love carrots and I think they make a great snack. You don’t have to eat all these foods every day, but even some of them would be great! Be sure to avoid junk foods, too much sugar, trans fats and refined carbs for the best skin possible. Which of these foods do you eat every day? Share your thoughts, please, and thanks for reading!

How to seduce your man

You’ve scored some quality time with your significant other Saturday night, and it’s just the two of you. So, how do you seduce him? Believe it or not, the goal of seduction is not s*x and has very little to do with physical intimacy, but everything to do with turning on your love’s heart and mind. The following are five surefire tips for successfully seducing your guy. Be Attractive The art of seduction is largely visual. So your first order of business, when trying to seduce your sweetie, is to look the part. And no, that doesn’t mean shakily stepping into four inch stilettos, donning a tight sweater, and/or dousing yourself in a gallon of eau de toilette. Instead, you should accentuate whenever it is about Y-O-U that makes you feel fabulous – from your engaging eyes to your winning smile to your sexy calves. Before beginning your seduction, spend an extra few minutes on your hair, makeup, and/or wardrobe. By looking and feeling your best, you’ll feel more confident and comfortable. Be Romantic In addition to being a visual art form, seduction is also a cerebral experience, and it’s up to you to set the perfect seduction scene. If your love is coming over to your house for dinner, set the mood with romantic music, scented candles, and a delicious meal with plenty of spicy aromas. Champagne and/or wine can add to a seductive evening. However, don’t rely on alcohol or other stimulants. It may make your mate feel uncomfortable, and/or put doubt in their mind about your true intentions. When in doubt, focus on setting a comfortable scene with romantic accents (flowers on the dining room table = the perfect touch). Be Attentive Part of the cerebral seduction experience lies in showering your sweetie with attention without being overbearing. A few days before your date, send your partner a friendly text message, letting them know how much you’re looking forward to seeing them. Call to confirm your plans the day before and be sure to add that you’re excited about spending time with them. When you meet, compliment your guy — on his hair, outfit, the way they smell — whatever stands out to you. Throughout your date, ask inquisitive questions, listen intently, share a few laughs, and give them your full attention. By being in the moment with your cutie (and having fun, too), you let them know how much you enjoy their company. Be Original In the art of seduction, there’s a fine line between being smarmy and predictable (and ultimately turning your date off) and achieving true seduction success (by turning on your date’s heart and mind). The key to your success lies in taking cues from what has worked for others, and putting your own personal flair into play. For example, romantic music, candlelight, and flowers are predictable seduction accoutrements. However, when used appropriately and with individualized attention, they can make the object of your desire feel appreciated, respected, and downright sexy. So how do you achieve originality in your seduction techniques? By paying attention to what rocks your love’s world. If they’re allergic to flowers, nix the bouquet of roses and instead present them with the dark chocolate they confess to craving. Or, if they’re a cooking whiz, invite them to share kitchen duties by cooking dinner together. Or, if you planned an elaborate romantic evening and then your date shows up looking exhausted, switch gears and opt for a relaxing evening on the couch, complete with their fave takeout food, followed by a foot massage. By treating your mate like the individual that they are, and showing that you’ve paid attention to their likes and dislikes, you’ll score serious seduction bonus points. Be Yourself Ultimately, the key to a successful seduction lies in being yourself. While there are plenty of proven tips and techniques for wining, dining, and wooing someone, your efforts will fall short if you’re not being authentic. Your best bet is to simply be the best version of yourself possible, even if that means being occasionally shy, clumsy, and/or unprepared. In fact, your partner may find you all the more attractive and endearing for these authentic and unplanned moments. So there you have it — five surefire tips for succeeding at seduction. When in doubt, remember this — seducing someone has little to do with scoring physical contact and everything to do with turning on your love’s heart and mind. If you succeed on a cerebral and emotional level, everything else will follow in time. Good luck and happy dating!

Signs you are dating an alcoholic

Picture it: You’re sitting across from your date at dinner, looking forward to all that the rest of the evening has to offer — and then he orders another drink. And another. You cringe slightly as he starts getting a little louder and more playful. A quick word to the wise: Watch out for the inevitable date who’s an alcoholic. In today’s day and age, people can get addicted to an almost endless range of substances: alcohol, heroin, cocaine, marijuana, pills, and so on. Yet one of the most common types of addiction that you may see in dating is alcoholism. If you cross paths with someone who has an alcohol problem, the question then becomes, what will you do with that information? As you meet and – let’s be honest – interview various dates en route to finding your long-term partner, you need to know how to spot someone who uses alcohol in an unhealthy way. For example, having a couple glasses of wine at dinner is probably no big deal, but a third and a fourth? That’s another story. It’s natural to have a drink or two to stave off the inevitable anxiety that comes with date night, but anything more than that tells you that this is someone who relies on alcohol to a fairly extreme degree. In such cases, he uses alcohol to balance his mood, feel happy, and relax. The simple truth is that a glass of wine or two helps you relax; anything more than that is unhealthy coping with issues of which you’re not yet aware. Sometimes the signs aren’t so obvious. Sure, if someone orders five beers over the course of the night, you’re going to ask yourself, I hope, is he an alcoholic? But a good alcoholic will also know how to hide the severity of his problem so that you don’t run for the hills. In such instances, listen to the content of what he talks about. Does he talk about drinking? Does he tell stories about events where you imagine he was probably drinking? Does he mention being hung over? Notice the way he drinks. Does he suggest that you take shots of liquor? Shot-taking is something that many young men and women do, but as they mature and grow into adulthood, this behavior becomes far less common. The average adult who regularly takes shots of liquor when he’s out on a date or with his friends is someone who uses alcohol in an unhealthy manner. The whole point of shots is that the person taking them can get intoxicated as quickly as possible, and that shows a serious reliance on alcohol to cope. If you’re on a date with someone who suggests that you take shots together, pass and say that you don’t need it. Most importantly, watch how he responds to the fact that you’ve declined. Does he still take shots by himself? Does he egg you on to take a shot, too? Does he think for a minute and refrain from taking one himself? Tell him how you feel about drinking alcohol. Many women enjoy having a drink here or there, but they don’t necessarily want to get drunk on the average date night. Early in the dating process, it’s good to tell him your views on alcohol and drugs. If you’re not a big drinker and don’t want to be with a big drinker, tell him from the start in a nice, gentle way. Again, watch how he responds and take note of any defensiveness. Trust your instincts. No one wants to believe their new guy is an alcoholic, so any sense you have that he might have a drinking problem is a cause for concern. If your instinct or gut, as some folks say, tells you that he might have a problem with alcohol, odds are that you’re right. If you have such a suspicion, don’t wait around a few more months to prove it. It’s certainly your right to mention your concern to him or ask him directly if he thinks he might have a problem, but whatever he says doesn’t mean much when your instinct – the most powerful self-protective mechanism you have – tells you there’s a problem. The most important thing to remember in dating is to move on when you come across someone who doesn’t meet your needs. Always remember that waiting or hoping that kind of behavior can change is distorted, wishful thinking. Bottom line: The ugly truth is that alcoholism and drinking issues wreck a lot of romantic relationships. If you end up in a relationship with an alcoholic, you’re co-signing on months – even years – of frustration, anxiety, and disappointment. You will always feel that he prioritizes alcohol over you, and you’ll be right: The drug of choice trumps everything in the lose-lose game of addiction.

Namibia decorates Nigerian President

President Goodluck Jonathan was on Friday in Windhoek conferred with the “Order of Welwitschia”, Namibia’s highest national honour, by his counterpart, President Hifikepunye Pohamba. The decoration of President Jonathan with the honour was the high point of the 24th independence anniversary of Namibia. The ceremony which took place at the capacity-filled Independence Stadium, Windhoek, was attended by the founding president and father of the Namibian nation, Dr Sam Nujoma. The Prime Minister of Namibia, Dr Hage Geingob, cabinet ministers, members of the Namibian parliament and other senior citizens were among dignitaries who also witnessed the event at the 35,000 capacity stadium. In his speech, Pohamba said the honour was conferred on Jonathan in recognition of the selfless contributions by the government and the people of Nigeria to Namibia’s national liberation struggle. He said that the contributions were deeply imprinted in the chronicle of Namibian history and they would forever be grateful. Pohamba noted that despite the geographic distance, Nigeria played a prominent role together with the frontline states in supporting the liberation movements in Southern Africa, including SWAPO of Namibia. He also applauded Nigeria’s steadfast and consistent contribution to the resolution of conflicts and the maintenance of peace and stability in Africa. He said that his country specifically recognised Nigeria under the leadership of Jonathan for acting decisively to resolve the crisis in Cote d’ Ivoire, Mali and other parts of Africa. In a citation read before the decoration President Jonathan, the master of ceremony said that successive Nigerian government had stood with Namibia in thick and thin. She said the distance notwithstanding, Nigeria consistently appropriated specific budget for the liberation movement during the SWAPO struggle for independence. “Many sons and daughters of Nigeria sacrificed their lives for the freedom and independence of Namibia,’’ she said. She also paid tribute to President Jonathan for demonstrating astute leadership in confronting the challenges faced by Nigeria and the African continent. In his response, President Jonathan thanked Pohamba and the people of Namibia for the award which, he said, underscored the long-standing relationship between the two countries. “Although I have been given the honour as Nigeria’s President, I recognise that this gesture rightly belongs to the Nigerian people on whose behalf I am privileged to serve. “I want to thank you also for the privilege and opportunity of sharing this independence anniversary celebration with you. “Twenty-four years in the history of any nation is no mean achievement. This occasion rightly provides an opportunity to reflect on the blessings of your independence and freedom. “It is also a special time to reflect on the challenges that lie ahead”, he said. Jonathan reiterated that Nigeria and Namibia had come a long way in bilateral relations, beginning from the time of the struggle against colonialism and racial domination. He recalled that Nigeria and Namibia worked side by side, shoulder to shoulder with faith and commitment in common destiny. “Even though we are geographically distant from each other, Nigeria was proud to identify with Namibia as it did with other brotherly countries in this sub-region. “Your struggle was our struggle, your pains were our pains and today, your freedom is our freedom”, he said. Jonathan also paid tribute to the elder statesman and leading Pan-Africanist, Nujoma, and all Namibia freedom fighters for their vision and personal sacrifices that won their nation’s freedom and independence.

Turkey threatens to ban Twitter

Twitter has gone dark in Turkey after the Prime Minster vowed to ‘wipe out’ the social network after it refused to remove links deemed illegal. However, not everyone in government backed the move, with Turkish President Abdullah Gul denouncing the government ban – on Twitter. “A complete ban on social media platforms cannot be approved,” tweeted Mr Gul to his more than four million followers just hours after the government edict. Mr Gul, a frequent user of social media, said it was not “technically possible to totally block access to platforms used all over the world”. Turkish authorities had blocked access to Twitter late on Thursday after Prime Minister Recep Tayyip Erdogan threatened to “wipe out” the social network. The state-run Anatolia news agency said authorities “technically blocked access to Twitter” because the service had ignored various Turkish court orders to remove some links deemed illegal. Critics claim it was an attempt by the government to clampdown on the spread of corruption allegations targeting Mr Erdogan and his inner circle, which threatens the embattled leader ahead of local polls on March 30. In his Twitter message, Mr Gul said relevant pages could be blocked in case of any violation of people’s privacy but only through a “court order”. “I hope this ban will not last long,” he added.

8 things every lady should know about her vagina

The first thing you should really know about the v**ina is that you should get yourself a group of girlfriends with whom your comfortable enough comparing notes and experiences! But, if you don’t have that group yet or the below issues just haven’t come up, then read on. 1. You can still contract an STD even if you use a condom It’s a huge let down but, it’s the reason why sleeping with completely random men may not be the best idea. At least if you run in the same circles, you may have gotten word if the guy had something! If the skin of the vulva comes into contact with affected skin on the scrotum, you can still catch an STD. 2. Don’t give your v**ina away just like that. Cherish and treasure it, but don’t deny your husband it’s uses…winks 3. Most women cannot reach climax from intercourse There isn’t some club you just haven’t graduated into yet, or some form of intimacy you haven’t experienced if you haven’t reached climax through intercourse. Many women never do, but still have perfectly fulfilling s*x lives. 4. A simple tip to finding the G spot First off, the G spot is in a different place for every woman so don’t get frustrated if you can’t find it right away. However, in general it is along the front wall of the vaginal canal. Some women are able to find it by using their finger in the “come hither” motion, and doing that up and down the wall until they hit the spot. Of course, a man may not always be able to find that. But it’s nice if you have the info to try to direct him! 5. Your v**ina doesn’t have to smell like roses Or be “douched.” Just because hundreds of products have been created to help you “clean up” your v**ina, doesn’t mean that’s what men want. If you like to use those products—okay. But don’t use them out of insecurity. A v**ina is meant to smell like a v**ina. 6. Your pap can only detect one type of cancer And that’s cervical. It doesn’t scan for cancer on your ovaries, uterus or your colon. So if you’re concerned about those, see the proper health care professional. 7. Needing lubrication is normal Plenty of women struggle to become naturally lubricated. Don’t feel like you’re the “kinky” one by standing in the K-Y aisle at the drug store. Comfortable and enjoyable s*x is your birthright. So go get it. 8. The thing no one wants to talk about… The queef. This is the sound that mimics gas coming out of your v**ina. If this happens to you, don’t think your guy is thinking, “What is wrong with this woman?” He’s surely experienced it before. The queef is simply what happens when air is pushed into the v**ina during intercourse, and a switching of positions allows much of it to rush out. Just ignore it if it happens, and keep enjoying yourself.

Google Adsense: Biggest internet scam ever

I came across this article and decided to share it with you all. My adsense was disapproved for illegally clicking on ads place on my site, but the funny part is ads click are paid to the site owner and up till this moment am yet to get even a cent from any ad. I have not even been paid or earn any thing from the adsense deal. My interest is just writing and developin my blog to be highly competitive against other well developed sites and blogs. The big question is, from where was the ads clicked since i have clicked or earned any cent from google. I also researched and came across this piece from another blogger and decided to share. I have come to say that Google Adsense has scammed many people. If you go on webmaster forums these days, you will find thousands of accounts from decent, honest people who say that Google Adsense scammed them. First off, let me explain what Adsense is. Adsense is a third-party ad network for publishers. Advertisers buy advertisements on Google Adwords. Website owners can enroll in Adsense to enable text, image, and video advertisements on their websites. Google puts those Adwords advertisements on websites that use Google Adsense. Every time a user clicks on a Google Adsense advertisement, the advertiser pays money. That money gets divided amongst Google and the website owner who's Adsense advertisement was clicked on. Before acceptance, the webmaster who's applying for an Adsense account must agree that he/she will not click on his own Adsense advertisements, nor will he provide an incentive for users to click on advertisements. Google Adsense does this to prevent website owners from clicking on their own advertisements. This is good, because Google is trying to prevent website owners from defrauding advertisers. The following is how webmasters who use Google Adsense get paid. Adsense will only pay you when your Adsense account reaches above $100. Then, on the month when you're account reaches $100, you will get paid in 30 days. For example, I have an account, and my account reached $50 on Febuary 28, 2011. Google will not pay me, because I haven't reached the $100 payment threshold yet. Then, by the end of March (which is March 31, 2011), my Adsense account has $120. Google will pay me that $120 30 days after March 31, 2011, which is April 30, 2011. Now this is where the story gets interesting. Google sometimes deletes Adsense accounts whose webmasters are clicking on their own advertisements. This is the right thing to do, because they are trying to prevent people from scamming Adsense and the advertisers. But thing is, Google has deleted thousands of accounts, and the website owners who own those accounts DIDN'T click on their own advertisements. Is this not a scam or what? Let me explain how this works. I've recently been scammed by them, and no, I absolutely did not click on my own advertisements. As you might know if you've been following my articles, I have my own website. I started putting Google Adsense advertisements on my website since Febuary 16, 2011. My total Adsense earnings at the end of Febuary 28, 2011 was $67. By the end of yesterday (March 14, 2011), my earnings had reached $190. so, that meant, by the end of March, my Adsense earnings will have been above the $100 payment threshold. That also means, that Google Adsense would have to pay me soon. And for some reason, Google banned my account today (March 15, 2011). Just like that. I didn't click on any of my own advertisements. I didn't give my website viewers any incentives to click on my own advertisements. Since they banned my account (pub-3089811986405667), I don't get paid a single cent of that $190 I had in my Adsense account. Now I'm currently trying to appeal to Google, but I know that it will be useless. Thousands of other honest people have had their accounts banned, and they've also tried to appeal to Google. But maybe, MAYBE, 1 in 10,000 banned accounts get unbanned. Problem is, I have no proof that I didn't click on my own Adsense advertisements. Google does not share any data or analytics about who clicked on my ads, and where these clickers' IP addresses are from. All I know is how much money I made from Adsense, and how many people viewed my Adsense Ads. In other words, there is no way for me to prove to Google that I did not click on my own ads. And about that $190 I had in my Adsense account. What happens to that money? I don't get that money. Google "says" that they will return the money to advertisers. But I doubt it. They probably just keep the money themselves. And isn't it coincidental that Google banned my account, just when I had reached the payment threshold? I don't think it's coincidental at all. I am not trying to bemoan my own misfortune. I am just trying to warn the general public, and other website owners who use Adsense. Google can choose to delete your Adsense account at any time. All they need to do is say that you've clicked on your own Adsense ads (even if you haven't), and they can ban your account. Just like that. After all, how are you going to collect the proof showing that you didn't click on your own ads? A case like mine has happened to thousands of people who haven't clicked on their own advertisements. Think about it. Google might ban around 5000 accounts a day (there are approximately 3 million Adsense accounts ). Of that 5000 banned accounts on any particular day, 4000 are banned because those accounts clicked on their own ads. The other 1000 were banned because Google had "evidence" saying the account owner clicked on his own ads, when in fact they actually didn't do anything wrong. There are two types of people(s) who have Adsense accounts. One type: the website owner makes probably a few dollars every day. The second type: the website has millions of pageviews, and makes hundreds of thousands every day from Adsense. Funny thing is, it's always the small accounts that don't make much money who get their accounts banned.